It appears that my last post as stirred up a fair amount of controversy…and in light of that I’d like to pose a question to y’all since a good number of you are Bloggers too…
Actually, I’d like to pose a few questions…
1. Do you write your Blog anonymously or do you (like me) just put your stuff out there and let the chips fall where they may?
2. If you don’t hide the fact that you’re a Blogger from friends/family/co-workers, have you suffered backlash from it?
I’ve never hidden the fact that I write a Blog from anyone, if I wanted to hide it I certainly would not “share” my posts on Facebook. And as I’ve mentioned before, I have from time to time regretted that loss of anonymity. Having said that, I have no regrets about anything I’ve ever written and published. I write what is in my heart, my feelings are what they are and quite frankly, I’ll be damned if I’m going to censor myself on my own Blog. We’ve had that discussion before so I’m not going to rehash it now…
It has been said to me “Most of the time, speaking your mind makes things worse”. In light of that here’s my next set of questions:
3. Do you feel that speaking your mind about things that bother you makes the situation worse, or better?
4. Is speaking your mind to the “webiverse” for ALL to see (including those you are speaking your mind about) better or worse than complaining behind said person’s back amongst a group of like-minded peers?
I have never and will never master the art of smiling on the outside while seething with anger or disdain on the inside. Unfortunately, whatever I feel is usually quite visible on my face, which is why I don’t play poker! I know people who can appear to be super friendly to someone that they secretly loath. And it’s always made me wonder, if they can fake it so well to one person, how do I know they’re not also faking it with me? How do you ever really know where you stand with a person who has such great acting skills?
I know, I know, it’s called diplomacy…I have some up to a point, but when I truly and honestly don’t like someone or am unhappy with a situation I cannot hide it. I’ve tried…I’m transparent….
It has also been brought to my attention that ” when you post it on the world wide web for everyone to see there will be consequences ” in this particular instance, the consequence being referred to is unemployment.
Which poses my next query:
5. Whether you are a Blogger or not, do you think that someone should be fired from their job for what they write on their personal Blog? And does it matter if names have been omitted?
(Now, to clarify, If I write “I work for *gives name* located at *lists address* and I’m here to tell you, that place is a crap dump of what passes for humanity. Never, ever, ever buy their product!” Then yes, by all means that would probably be grounds for dismissal.)
Or would it??
6. Does venting about a co-worker online qualify as an offense worthy of termination? How about venting about a supervisor, or just complaining about your employer in general?
7. (For my fellow Bloggers) Why do you Blog? What do you get out of it?
When I started this Blog last summer I intended it to be a cheerful little life/food Blog patterned after my beloved PW. I promptly found out that food blogging is a lot of work….and it never really satisfied my soul. Also, to be perfectly honest, didn’t attract a lot of followers. Then one day I wrote my first tongue-in-cheek satirical post and the followers came in droves! Which says to me that the general public would rather read about me bitching than cooking!! It also added quite a bit of pressure to keep coming up with that kind of post, and keeping those kind of numbers, which was just as exhausting as a daily food blog.
I didn’t need another full time job so after a couple of months it morphed again. This time into writing more of what I felt or what was going on in my life and less of a useful “how-to” type of Blog. And the more “cyber” friends I gain through it, (cyber or not, they are my friends, as real and as genuine as any others I have) the more I write as if speaking (ok, venting) to a friend because that’s exactly what it feels like….I no longer worry about how many visitors I get in a day or how popular a post is (or isn’t) and discovered that this is the style that calms me and feeds my soul. When I check on it after posting, I go straight to the comments to see what my friends have had to say because that’s what matters to me now…
I don’t defend what I write to anyone I may offend, I don’t feel I need to. Nor will I apologize for it. And by the same token, I don’t expect anyone to feel they need to apologize to me for any negative comments they make concerning one of my posts. I believe everyone has the right to voice their own opinion even if it’s in direct opposition to my own. It’s called Freedom of Speech…I have the choice as the sole administrator of my Blog to not even approve the comments left on a post, and if I chose to I could approve only the ones that were all sunshine and puppies. I don’t. I approve them all (with the exception of the Spam ones, which is the only reason I filter at all) good bad or ugly because sometimes the differences of opinions spark a whole other topic (as it did in this case) which is fun in and of itself…
I’m fortunate that I don’t work because I have to. My salary is fun money for Hubs and I, it buys the extras that we want without having to stick to a budget which is why I have contemplated being a stay-at-home-wife off and on for the last year. Every time I whine “I don’t wanna go to work tomorrow, whahhhhh” my Hubs responds with “Don’t”…. Point being, if I get fired over speaking my mind about a co-worker whom I didn’t name but everyone recognized just from my description of her demeanor (which kind of validates my opinion of her, does it not?) then all I have to say to my (former) employer is this: Thank You. Thank You for making up my mind about early retirement and taking my happy ass off the proverbial fence…
I’m proud of my little Blog, and grateful for the new friends it has brought me that I would never have known without it. I’m also thankful for the sense of emotional release it has provided me. And that, my Peeps, is all that matters.
Ok, your turn! Spout off in the comments, answer my questions, pose new ones of your own, GIVE THE REST OF US YOUR OPINION! Because all opinions are valued here at Gram-Cracker.com….
Have no fear, this old Grammy will just keep on writing, and venting and blabbing! And occasionally whining….