When did it become ok to stop teaching common courtesy and manners to children? I am not a fan of this trend…..
I had probably 40 trick or treaters last night, only about half actually uttered the phrase “trick or treat”, only about 1 in 4 said “thank you”. And a very large number of them didn’t even bother to dress up. I get not being able to afford a costume, but there are so many things you can do to be festive that don’t require spending any money. For crying out loud, Bambi dressed like a “Black-Eyed Pea” when she brought Kolton to see me by rubbing some mascara around one eye and putting a big P on a black shirt with DUCT TAPE! It’s called being creative.
I’ve always taken issue with kids past the age of about 13 or 14 trick or treating anyway. I actually quoted the “if you’re as tall as me you’re too old to be out here” rule to a couple of young men who promptly squatted down and looked up at me sweetly. It made me giggle so they got candy anyway just for amusing me! And they said “thank you!”
I was the Mom who actually escorted my festively attired little beggars as they went door to door, grilling them incessantly with “Did you say thank you??? Did you?? Did you???” as they walked back down the sidewalk to where I waited, much to their embarrassment. Tough. Humiliation builds character….you’re welcome my darling Daughters!
PS. I never bought my kids a costume, in their whole lives. We made ours, and I don’t sew. A glue gun is a wonderous thing….
Next year I swear, if I don’t hear “trick or treat!” when I open the door I’m just going to stand there with my bowl of candy, tapping my foot with an expectant look on my face until they comply. I’m also going to prompt them with “what do you say???” if they don’t say THANK YOU as the candy drops into their buckets…
I may start having 2 bowls of candy, one full of the good stuff, and the other with those god-awful orange and black paper wrapped things that nobody eats….You act appropriately you get bowl #1, you act all rude it’s the candy from 1978 for you. ‘Cuz I’m sorry, it’s no fun for me when you just stand there mute, with a surly expression on your face, bag open, without a shred of common courtesy. I’m not obligated to give you candy Kid, I do it cuz it’s fun. I’m gonna need you to stop messing with my fun!
A few manners, a little appreciation, and happy faces…is that too much to ask??
I don’t think so….
What kind of trick or treaters did you get?